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Holiday Feelings

Dr. Jill Weissberg-Benchell hosted a chat about holiday feelings on December 17, 2001

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:15:15 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
So, no one has any feelings about the holidays?????

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:15:26 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
How nice to be able to find the room! Thanks.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:15:58 Eastern US
Laura (Laura 19 yrs old dx'd 6 yrs and 9 mnths ago ) from 12.87.138.62
Hi

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:12 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Hi Jill

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:22 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Hi Laura, Hi Anne.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:40 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Hi Laura---seems like I just chatted with you....

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:48 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Hi Steph. Thanks so much for being our host.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:52 Eastern US
Susie (T-2) from 207.29.206.33
Good evening.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:16:55 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Does everything that's happened make the holidays different this year?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:18:30 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
I hate to say this, but diabetes (and 2 other children younger than Nick) make my life, by necessity, very centered on our little family and what we have to get through each day.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:19:20 Eastern US
Susie (T-2) from 207.29.206.33
Steph, it makes everything everyday different.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:19:57 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
How are the holidays different for you Anne?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:20:52 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
I grieve for the families who lost people and cry at every newspaper article about it, but still have to stay focused on my children and their needs. I wrote in one of their journals that I will never feel totally safe again---they willl not grow up in the "knowledge" that bad things don't happen here....

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:21:57 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Anne, what kinds of things do you do, everyday, that help your children feel safe and protected? What are the things that you do have control over?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:22:17 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
good evening everyone, I just stopped in to watch the conversation...:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:22:51 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
The holidays are just centered on three kids, and making things "normal" for them. I wondered just yesterday what our preparations would be like if Nick didn't have diabetes---would we bake cookies with lots of messy icing????? Would I habg real candy canes on the tree---and not worry if he'd take one and get all sticky....

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:22:59 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Welcome Gary

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:23:37 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
You can still do those things, Anne

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:23:53 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Hello Steph

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:24:45 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Hi all. Dr. Benchell, could you tell us a bit more about yourself? :-) and thank you for taking the time to chat with us.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:24:49 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
It sounds like you have a holiday routine that you do with your children, and that your children know they are the center of your life. What a wonderful way to help them feel safe and protected!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:24:57 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
hi all

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:25:45 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Steph, It's too hard for Nick--I tried to decorate a cake recently and Nick got so upset after going after the icing that he asked to go to his room until I was done. Not worth it.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:26:04 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Welcome Ellen and red

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:26:16 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Hi Red---surviving the kids' vacation so far?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:26:58 Eastern US
Laura (Laura 19 yrs old dx'd 6 yrs and 9 mnths ago ) from 12.87.138.62
Hi ellen, red and Gary

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:12 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
I grieve sometimes for the simple things that other families take for granted--so much of the Christmas season centers around food/sweets.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:13 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Anne, can you speak with your endocrinologist about a sliding scale of extra insulin to give Nick so he may eat and decorate....just like everyone else?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:15 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
just barely anne

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:18 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Hello Laura :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:32 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Hi Ellen, I'd be happy to. I'm a child psychologist ( I received my Ph.D. from Case Western Reserve in Cleveland). My entire career since I graduated has been centered on working with children and their families who have a chronic or life-threatening illness. I have worked in two children's hospitals, and currently work at Children's Memorial in Chicago. I work with a pediatric diabetes team now, and I also have my certification as a diabetes educator. Please feel free to ask more questions if I have not answered any.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:27:49 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
hi all...

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:28:20 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Hello Kate :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:28:24 Eastern US
Laura (Laura 19 yrs old dx'd 6 yrs and 9 mnths ago ) from 12.87.138.62
Howdy Kate

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:29:26 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Great idea Ellen -- Anne have you thought about ways that Nick could do all the same things as other kids?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:29:39 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Ellen, we have done that for plenty of special occasions...like Celia's Baptism cake yesterday---I just don't want it to be a habit. He BEGGED for a bite of candy cane recently--and said "I'll take an extra shot, Mom!!!!" That stuff makes me breathless with sadness sometimes.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:30:12 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
why not have it be a habit, Anne?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:30:34 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Jill, how can we help Anne nd Nick enjoy the holidays?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:31:10 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
I do everything I can to make my child's life the same as other children. I say, thank god for humalog

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:31:31 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Many families will plan the timing of the extra foods so that they can either plan it as part of the carbs they were going to have that meal/snack, OR, they add the extra food at that time and just add more short-acting insulin into the injection they were going to take anyway.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:31:55 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
A bite of candy cane with lots of activity probably won't hurt the blood sugars anyway

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:11 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I had the same question Kate. As the American Diatetic Association coined the term "SNAP" Sugar is not a poison, Nick is entitled to eat it as well - he just needs insulin to utilize it properly in his body.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:33 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
It's so hard for him with sweets--I'd rather do non-food related traditions--special books we read together or dancing in the living room with the tree (He particulary likes The Who's Greatest Hits CD....) Kate, he tends to bounce all over even with a sliding scale. Then, he gets crazy and cries. It's really, really, not worth it--and Steph, we DO enjoy the holidays.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:44 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
I agree with Steph. Moreover (just to play devil's advocate) what's the worst thing that would happen if Nick actually ate an entire candycane without you knowing?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:52 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
with taylor if there is going to be unexpected extras, we let her have them, and push extra water and exercise before and after, and that is normally enough to skip the extra shot, if it is expected, our doc has suggested either an extra shot of humalog at the time, or increasing the long acting dose, depending of the timing.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:53 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
agree, Ellen!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:32:54 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
The candy cane thing was just an example.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:34:13 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Are you concerned at all that certain foods will be viewed as "forbidden" and then he will find a need to "sneak" them down the road when he's a bit more independent?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:34:23 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
Anne, of course, while he is young, you have a lot of control over his diet and circumstances. I was just thinking of when he is in other people's houses, where you do not have control

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:34:26 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
What would happen? He'd just start screaming and punching his sister!!!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:34:37 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
I think a small candy cane is about the same as 15 grams of carb

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:05 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Anne, I love your idea of developing holiday traditions that have nothing to do with food. I wish everyone (whether or not they have diabetes) would move toward developing traditions that involve spending time together doing things that are fun.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:23 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
So -- is it the diabetes or the behavior? Why would he punch his sister?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:35 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
oh dear...well, you have a problem that i have not experienced, Anne, so I'll leave it to Dr. benchley

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:42 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
We tell him he can eat everything everyone else does---I just don't want to make it a habit of giving extra humulog when it doesn't always work without a HUGE drop.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:53 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
Benchell...pardon me!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:35:58 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Your traditions do sound warm and wonderful, Anne

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:36:22 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Anne, btw, for years I never had any sweets in the house...didn't have a sliding scale when Z was first diagnosed or on injections. I found it very liberating when I discovered that there are no forbidden foods with type 1 diabetes.

Anne, can you get some diluted humalog? He may be very sensitive to straight humalog.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:36:35 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
When Nick runs high, he gets aggressive and mean. Is this new to you guys?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:36:48 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Kate - don't worry about my name. It's complicated!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:37:34 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
My son is also very nasty when bg is high.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:37:37 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
Really, everyone has different behavioral changes with blood sugar variations, I think

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:38:07 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
usually when children are high and then become aggressive, it's not the blood sugars per say, but the fact that they don't feel great, and so they're letting you know through behavior that they dont feel well.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:38:29 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
my son always got extremely silly and talkative when high...lows can cause belligerance. but we do not accept aggressiveness or meanness for any cause

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:38:40 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Anne, every child is different, every mom does what they think is right for their child...you are doing a terrific job, don't worry!! :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:38:49 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Maybe diluted humulog would work---but in general, i don't really think ANY of my kids need to eat a lot of the holiday junk. Heck, I get grumpy with too much sugar too!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:39:23 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
OK, Kate. How did you make this rule clear to your son? How did you let him know that misbehavior is never tolerated?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:39:30 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
My son gets giddy and goofy when bg is dropping or low.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:39:51 Eastern US
Wendy from 12.78.71.154
Hi Everyone

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:39:52 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
well then, Anne, if you really believe that, don't feel sad about the candy canes. It is true that we often eat an unbalanced diet around holidays

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:39:52 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
You got that right, Anne :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:40:29 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Hi Wendy How are the holidays going for you?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:40:42 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
hello Wendy :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:40:53 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i am very lucky, taylor is a very placid child, and whilst she does have mood swings with the differing levels, they aren't normally extreme

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:40:53 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I would like to know how people get extended family members to UNDERSTAND that timing of the meal IS important. For years my family just never understood, no matter how many times we told them. The pump has made it so much easier to eat at any hour.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:40:54 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
It's hard for all of us--how much of behavior problems (and Nick doesn't have many--he is ordinarily a loving, gentle kid) is diabetes and how much is being 4 1/2?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:41:32 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
well, Dr. Benchell, we used to say that he needed to test, and that he had better hope the BG was "way off" because his behavior was ubnacceptable. But what really helped was that we know an adult with type 1 who is FAMOUS for being a really inexcusably horrible, nasty, and rude person. And he uses diabetes as an excuse...so we always held him up as a bad example

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:42:12 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Anne, the holidays are okay, not yet in full swing....my biggest holiday aggrivation is someone saying..i shouldn't have a piece of apple pie cause of the diabetes...i feel like looking at them and saying well you shouldn't have it cause you is fat....

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:42:33 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
thats right anne, it is very hard to distinguish between normal behaviour and d behaviour when they are so young as you normally don't have a developed pattern to go by

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:42:50 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
So you gave your son some clear guidelines about what was and was not acceptable. That's great! How did you help him learn other ways of letting you know he wasnt feeling well, or other ways of letting you know he was in a bad mood?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:43:17 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Thanks Wendy--I needed a laugh---feelin' a bit defensive in here.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:43:30 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
Also, I will admit to being an absolute dictator about manners. We have just tried to make him realize he has to test when he starts feeling nasty. But it is really hard. Really hard. Because they sometimes get way off without realizing. then as we all knnow, especially with little children, it is too late

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:43:33 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Are there any books or articles you can recommend on coping with the holidays and diabetes?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:44:18 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Kate, will you be offering a boot camp at your home? :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:44:37 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
I agree, Kate. I have known Nick to drop 200 points in 25 minutes----talk about a mood swing!!!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:44:52 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
I'm not aware of any that specifically address issues with the holidays. I love the book by the ADA by Timothy Wysocki called the 10 keys to helping your child grow with diabetes. It's really down-to-earth and practical.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:44:57 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
well, that is harder...we really had to watch him. and I will admit that he was older than Anne's son at diagnosis...so Anne has a more difficult time than I did with a 10 year old. I think it is hard.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:45:14 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Four and a half is a tough age. :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:45:17 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
oh I love that book too

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:45:27 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i have 3 other children and taylor is treated with the same respect and punishment as the others regardless of her d. we are trying very hard not to teach her the d can be used as an excuse. we all know that in some circumstances it can be, but i don't want her to learn to use it.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:45:41 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
and, my son was a demon at 4, without diabetes...LOL

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:45:58 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Sweet Kids is another good one

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:03 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
Hi Everyone:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:42 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
hi cassy

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:53 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Good evening Cassy :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:54 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I like the book Coping With Your Child's Chronic Illness by Alecia T. Barrett Singer

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:55 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Kate---funny that you should say it's harder--I always thought we had it easier that Nick was so young---he doesn''t remember anything else and doesn't know his life is different than it would have been without d.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:46:56 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Welcome Cassy

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:47:25 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Red, that's great! And a very hard thing to do. I think the one really important rule of thumb when asking: Is it diabetes or is my child just being difficult?, that any blood sugar under 70 is a low that needs to be treated, and any behavior that occurs while low is not punishable, as the child's brain is not functioning normally.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:47:36 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i don't have sweet kids yet, it is not available in australia. i have someone sending it to me from canada, but the mail is very slow at the moment

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:47:56 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
my son has always apologized later when he has been a monster because of glucose levels...we have managed to teach him that one. Maybe you could do that with your son Anne. Teach him that when the glucose klevels make him behave badly, that he needs to apologize immediately, as soon as he feels well enough to realize he has been naughty

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:48:01 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
I agree Anne the same thing is true for Nathan

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:49:06 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
We do that, Kate. He knows that the d. doesn't excuse his behavior--although I agree with the below 70 rule of thumb. He STILL has to apologize if necessary.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:49:20 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
I like your idea, Kate, as it teaches children that our behaviors have an impact on others. Apologizing is a nice idea. Another one may be to do something nice for the person whose feelings you've hurt (e.g. do one of their chores)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:50:03 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
yes, we taught our son to say "I am really sorry I was such a bear.. sometimes I don't realize how I am behaving"

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:50:33 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
Everyone has heard me say that Nathan will get to kindregarten and wonder why the other kids don't get shots!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:50:51 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
bad behavior whjen high is something else, but we still had the same rule
then ther is just normal childhood bad behavior..

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:51:04 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
kindergarten

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:52:28 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Diabetes certainly teaches us that there are many things in our lives that we can not control, even if we want to, and even if we work very, very hard.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:52:47 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
Hello everyone.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:04 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Hello Amy :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:08 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
Hi Amy:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:21 Eastern US
Anne (Ohio) (Nick, 4 dx'd 3/00) from 64.48.149.19
Sorry, guys. I really whipped after the weekend. Off to bed early. Have a good night.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:49 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
Bye Anne:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:50 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Hi Amy

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:53:55 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
sweet dreams Anne!! :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:04 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
control...now that is a word that i am deleting from my vocabulary, it just doesn't exist in our house anymore lol

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:10 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Thanks for joining us Anne. I hope you and Nick have the most wonderful holiday ever, full of joy, laughter, and wonderful memories.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:16 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Good night Anne.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:19 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
Ellen, I just saw your question about meal times. I always just announced it, and if they didn't have the meal ready, I went into the kitchen and got food.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:30 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
:-) anne

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:41 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
LOL Red!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:54:44 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Happy Holidays, Anne :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:11 Eastern US
Kate (Brendan 18) from 216.224.161.121
uh oh...husband needs the phone. Thank you Dr. Benchell. See you all later

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:23 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
We did that too Kate, and I spent many a family meal either eating early with Zachary or waiting for him to be able to eat.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:32 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Warmest wishe, Kate. Thanks for joining us

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:35 Eastern US
Lyn (Grandmother) (Jessica, 11 dxd @15 months..pumping) from 208.63.183.154
Hi folks. Just listening in...

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:45 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
bye Kate

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:51 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i am so lucky with my family for meal times, i explained to them that timing was very important and now they are more fanatical than i am about it

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:55:59 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
welcome Lyn :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:56:05 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Night Kate

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:56:29 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Kate and Ellen, you are both so clearly child-centered. How wonderful for your children that they know you are there to protect them and make sure their health is well cared for.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:56:44 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
I feel like I don't have too much to add here- Nathan will be too busy palying with the boxes that all the expensive toys came in to worry about anything else!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:57:45 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Well, Cassy, that sounds like a "normal" thing to do with a 20 month old. I think that's the whole idea, isn't it?

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:57:45 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
It's been almost 13 years - I've learned a lot in that time.

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:58:22 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
absolutely!

Mon Dec 17 2001 21:59:39 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I thought Wendy's earlier point about people questioning why someone with diabetes is eating "pie"...is a big issue.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:00:50 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
I like to say something like: Isn't it wonderful that things have changed so much with diabetes care that we no longer need to worry about what foods people eat! Usually, people just say "oh" and walk away.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:00:56 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
I do get that alot- people out there thinking that he can't have ANYTHING with sugar in it

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:01:05 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
Wendy, when or if people are stupid enough to say something like that, I wouldn't even acknowledge their stupid statement

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:01:47 Eastern US
Judith (David, 16, dx'd at age 2 months; Vanya, 17, dx'd at 6) from 65.171.1.87
Hello...
Dave asked me the other day if all teens with diabetes feel like they won't live long. He's said that many times, since he was quite young. A classmate who was dx'd 3 yrs ago is expressing that to him.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:02:05 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
But Gary, don't you find that some people just wont be ignored, especially if they've elected themselves to be the diabetes police?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:02:17 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Gary, i just ignore them...but i tell you...they are lucky i don't put their face in the pie....actually my cousin, i gave her husband one of my meters yelled at me due to my averages not being good...man she is lucky she didn't see a fist.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:02:52 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Boot camp, Judith? :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:02:52 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
that has come up here a lot ellen, i have several type 2 in the family who were visiting for easter and worried more about what taylor was eating than their own meals

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:03:15 Eastern US
Judith (David, 16, dx'd at age 2 months; Vanya, 17, dx'd at 6) from 65.171.1.87
Didn't he arrive yet, Steph???

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:03:32 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
It bothers me more when people question my knowledge as his parent "are you sure he should be eating that?"

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:03:36 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
that's their problem if they want to be the 'police'...if you ignore someone long eough they usually get the point and find someone else to be stupid with

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:03:39 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Judith, you may wish to read the book by William Polonsky called Diabetes Burn-Out. In it, there's a section where they talk about all of the people who are living long, healthy lives, but who had the WORST care (due to the technology available 30 or more years ago). Your son might be interested in reading it.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:04:07 Eastern US
gary (...visit the 'Diabetes Poetry Room' at geocities.com/gmhco) from 63.23.15.13
bye everyone, have a GREAT evening!!! :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:04:18 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
David's classmate neds to talk to someone like Jill!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:04:43 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
bye gary:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:07 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Bye Gary -- Thanx and Happy and Peaceful hoildays :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:08 Eastern US
Mona from 24.144.55.101
Hey!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:19 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Thanks for stopping in, Gary!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:44 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
That's a great book, Jill

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:45 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Dr. Benchell, your reply reminded me of something Dr. Wendy Satin Rapaport would have said. Do you know her?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:05:56 Eastern US
Judith (David, 16, dx'd at age 2 months; Vanya, 17, dx'd at 6) from 65.171.1.87
I do know of many folks living long healthy lives, inc a ped endo who's had d for 52 yrs.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:06:21 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Hey Mona

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:06:41 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
Well- I'm going to go too- we were up last night with nath and a low bs reading- i'm pooped!
Good night everyone:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:06:54 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
I know Wendy very well, Ellen

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:07:04 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
When Madeline was diagnosed, a DENTIST friend of ours goes, "So, Diabetics have shorter life expectancies - did you know that?"

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:07:16 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
But Cassy, have you ever questioned their knowledge on why he should not be eating the particular food? Often they are just confused & may benefit from your knowledge.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:07:22 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Hi Steph. What exactly are we supposed to be talking about here?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:07:28 Eastern US
Judith (David, 16, dx'd at age 2 months; Vanya, 17, dx'd at 6) from 65.171.1.87
I think teens simultaneously hold the contradictary ideas of fatalism about the disease, and personal immortality.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:07:50 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Cassy, I think that other people love to give unsolicited advice that makes us all feel somewhat incompetent regardless of whether it's about diabetes, general parenting, the way we do our banking, etc. etc. I think that we need to try and be a bit more confident in our skills and abilities. I find that being really nice to these inappropriate people helps - like saying: Wow, thanks for being so worried about my daughter. I'll call my diabetes doctor tomorrow and see what she says about that!".

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:08:10 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Thanks for stopping in Cassy -- good luck with Nathan and Santa :-) BTW did you know Santa has Type@

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:08:22 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Type 2

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:09:01 Eastern US
Judith (David, 16, dx'd at age 2 months; Vanya, 17, dx'd at 6) from 65.171.1.87
He probably got it from eating all those cookies, Steph!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:09:06 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Cassy, I get that ALL the time - with Madeline. My mother is the WORST. But after keeping her for a few days and seeing that sometimes her bg goes wild for no apparant reason, she's backed off.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:09:15 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Have a great Holiday, Cassy. Yes, Ellen, I've met Wendy once. She seems very lovely.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:09:23 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Mona -- Holidays Strees, whatever -- Br Benchell is a child psychologist

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:10:13 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
That's nice to know! I have been stressing today, about the holidays that are coming up. There's always problems.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:10:37 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
What are some of the biggest problems you face?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:10:58 Eastern US
ms from 205.188.192.37
Just came accross the special chat - i'm supposing its almost over? :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:11:33 Eastern US
Cassy (Nathan 20 months, dx'd@15 months) from 216.130.2.207
I know Dr. Benchell but I'll be honest and tell you what I'd like to say to them is-"Do you think I am an idiot and don't know what my child should or shouldn't be eating?!"-but I will try what you said as I know we will get some of that on Christmas- will probably go over better! LOL Goodnight:-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:12:01 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Hi Ms, just like Chanukah :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:12:14 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
About another 10 minutes

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:12:30 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Hi ms

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:12:32 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
It's always so hard to swallow what you really want to say! I do think you might like to results, however

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:13:03 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
IDIOTIC PEOPLE who think they know everything about diabetes.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:13:13 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
My kids have one other cousin, who is around their ages. I will divvy out candy or treats or whatever, counting carefully for Madeline's portion and this little cousin will either end up eating hers or giving his to her. His mom thinks that this is "okay" to do because they are "sharing." I try to tell her that it's not "okay" and that it's more important for her to learn to eat what SHE has and no one else's food and not to give hers away. It makes it hard to figure out what has gone into her mouth and how much insulin to give.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:13:37 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Hi Wendy. How do you cope with these people?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:14:55 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
That is a tough one, Mona. Many parents of children who do not have diabetes worry about food-sharing too. Is is possible to talk over your worries with this child's parent?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:15:01 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I like to pretend they want me to educate them!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:15:11 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
I tell them that she has been D for 3 years and that I am well aware of how different foods affect her bg. I have also been known to yell, "I went to the Diabetes education classes and learned how to take care of my daughter - DID YOU?!?!"

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:15:52 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Havn't figured that one out yet.......Right now my problem is convincing people that my foot pain is not because of or made worse by the diabetes.....it just makes the d harder to handle.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:15:54 Eastern US
ms from 205.188.192.37
Mona, I hear where you are coming from! I grew up around friends/cousins who would graciously share and I would share with them. I'm sure it is a source of great frustration!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:16:09 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Well, Mona - does that strategy work?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:16:10 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
I HAVE, several times. Now, I just make sure that I sit by the kiddie table so I can watch what she eats and what she doesn't. But they think I'm a freak.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:16:16 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
Dr. Benchell, any tips to the child for dealing with people who question her diabetes care. Kaitlyn has trouble standing up for herself when adults are involved (ie, the teacher questions if she can have the cupcakes someone else's mom brought in, stuff like that)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:16:57 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Yes, telling people off works. It makes them realize that I am the one who manages this on a daily basis.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:17:11 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Amy, how old is Kaitlyn?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:17:22 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
mona, i have learnt not to care what anyone else thinks of me, so long as i'm doing the best by my kids, i feel great about myself, and that is the most important thing

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:17:39 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Mona - I ALWAYS sit at the Kiddie table. I find the conversation is usually more intelligent and interesting.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:18:03 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Yes, I know what you mean - red. That's why I don't hesitate to tell them what's what.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:18:20 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
LOL!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:18:47 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
She is 10 years old.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:19:06 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Have a great holiday season, Mona.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:19:12 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Like I said, my mom has since learned not to question my methods. She has kept Madeline for 3 or 4 days at a time and know she has a little taste of what I go through everyday.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:19:22 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i am also very lucky that 2 of my kids are older than taylor and they have learnt a lot about her d and are happy to keep an eye out for her, and they will stand up for her, or rather one will stand up for her while the other runs to get me.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:20:23 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Madeline's big brother is only 6, but he is learning and interested. He gets concerned about her.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:20:56 Eastern US
Melanie (Jessica 12 Katie 9 both type 1) from 216.0.151.170
Hello everyone

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:21:35 Eastern US
Mommy2Nate from 208.27.31.4
hello, how is everybody?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:21:47 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Some children Kaitlyn's age enjoy doing a "science fair" or a "show and tell" for their class about diabetes. Done in a simple way, stressing what diabetes is (my body doesnt make enough insulin) and what its not (contagious). Then kids will talk about how they can still do everything everyone else does (play, do sports, eat, etc., and how there are no such things as forbidden foods. They can also talk about how people with diabetes are not more fragile, not more likely to break a bone, etc. etc. Often, (especially if the parent is there to support the child), lots of questions get asked and answered so that the misperceptions are no longer there.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:22:16 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I think it's important to teach our kids empowering language so they can feel confident when responding to the inane questions.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:22:57 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Ellen - it sounds as if you've been doing a lot of reading on the psychosocial aspects of diabetes!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:23:26 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
We're fortunate to know lots of other kids with D. One of her little friend's big brother (6 yo) has a pump. So she doesn't feel totally isolated.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:24:18 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
I see how sure of himself my son is about his diabetes - no one doubts that he knows what he's talking about on that subject.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:24:23 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i agree with ellen. we as parents cannot be there 24 hours a day, no matter how much we would like to be

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:24:25 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
I went in for a check-up last week. The doc asked if I had been having any problems with my blood sugar. Madeline perked up and said, "Mommy doesn't. But I do because I am Diabetic." Then she went on to tell him ALL about it.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:25:13 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Mona- what a wonderful story!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:25:55 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
Dr. Benchell, I love the science fair idea & I have had that one on the back burner for some time now. Kaitlyn is not at the age where everyone would be doing a project on something & to specially request that she do one would be not be appropriate at this time. Any tips on when the incedent actually happens. Kaitlyn also has ADHD & is not currently on any medications for that. She has trouble calmly vocalizing her concerns to the teacher (or whoever). She tends to get emotional & upset first.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:26:01 Eastern US
Melanie (Jessica 12 Katie 9 both type 1) from 216.0.151.170
Mona, that is too cute, for a four year old.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:26:43 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
It kind of freaks people out when she starts talking about pinching up for shots and poking her fingers for blood. I was SO proud when she learned how to test herself for ketones. I excitedly told my mother-in-law and she was all solemn and said, "How pitiful that she has to do that. Poor little thing." I was GLAD that she was learning to care for herself!
She is VERY vocal and very self-sufficient. She likes to know things and do things for herself.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:27:18 Eastern US
Melanie (Jessica 12 Katie 9 both type 1) from 216.0.151.170
Amy, one of Katie's nurse educators, came and talk to the whole 4 th grade, now all her classmates, know what is going on.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:27:27 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Amy, would it be possible for Kaitlyn to have a meeting with just the teacher and you, so that she could talk about what she wants her to know with your support?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:29:35 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Amy, is Kaitlin starting school in the fall? Do you know if the school is very cooperative or not?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:29:37 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Mona, you should be so very proud of Madeline. I'm sorry your mother-in-law does not have a better understanding of how competent and smart your daughter is.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:31:01 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
I AM proud of Madeline. I want her to take good care of herself and have a positive self-image.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:31:34 Eastern US
Amy (FL) (mom of Kaitlyn ) from 63.25.165.124
We have had numerous meetings with everyone and Kaitlyn knows that she always has my support.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:31:59 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Of course, she does have her 4 year old moments - like sneaking off with a bag of Lemonheads one night. She LOVES those things!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:32:01 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Well gang, I think it
s time to get those sugar-plums in our heads and call it a night. Thanks Dr Benchell for helping all of us. I hope you'll come back again. Happy Holidays to all and to all a Good Night!! :-)

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:32:08 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Well, Mona, you are well on your way. As you've already seen, positive self-image comes from doing things youre proud of

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:32:16 Eastern US
Mommy2Nate (Nathan, 3 1/2) from 208.27.31.4
I am having a hard time explaining to my son why he can't have the juice that all his playmates are having. Any suggestions?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:32:58 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Have a happy and healthy holiday, everyone! Thanks for inviting me to join you.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:33:16 Eastern US
Ellen (FL) (Zachary 14, dx 2/89, pump 6.5 yrs) from 64.12.103.31
Thank you Dr. Benchell, it was a pleasure. I'd love to read anything you've written on the subject. My email address is CamelsRFun@aol.com

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:33:21 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Madeline's kindergarten teacher will be the one that her brother had. She is a friend of the famly and I trust her to take good care of her.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:33:41 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Thanx Dr. Benchell!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:34:11 Eastern US
Wendy (type 1 on the pump) from 12.78.71.154
Thanks Dr. Benchell

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:34:15 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
i give taylor the same juice as everyone else, just reduce the sugar or carbs somewhere else or increase her insulin to cover it. she has juice every day

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:34:15 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Mommy2Nate, what juice IS it? Could you adjust the insulin so he COULD have it?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:34:30 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
Ellen, I wrote an article last year in Diabetes Spectrum about intensive management and teens that might be of interest to you since your son is a teen.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:34:33 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
thanks Dr. Benchell, we all enjoyed your company

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:35:00 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Madeline LOVES juice - especially Sunny Delight. I just balnace it out with her other foods and insulin.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:35:18 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Pleasant drams to all !! :-)
Judith -- remember boot camp is here of you need it!

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:35:18 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
You are all very welcome.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:35:29 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
Dreams

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:35:53 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Bye Steph, if you're leaving.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:36:06 Eastern US
Mommy2Nate (Nathan, 3 1/2) from 208.27.31.4
At our Thursday playgroup they always have Sunny Delight. I will give him a small amount, but then he has to have something I brought for him (Diet Soda, Koolaid, etc.) Sometimes he's just not satisfied with his alternatives.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:36:48 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
Can you up his insulin on that day? Or lessen the carbs in something else that he's having?

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:36:49 Eastern US
Mommy2Nate (Nathan, 3 1/2) from 208.27.31.4
Last week they had Cranberry Apple or something similar. It's almost 40 carbs for 8 oz.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:37:09 Eastern US
red (aus) (taylor 4) from 198.142.138.18
as its only on a certain day, could you increase his insulin to cover for that day? i know that it means an extra shot, but...

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:37:19 Eastern US
Steph (host) from 207.172.148.136
I think Jeff will be shutting down this room -- you can move to the parents toom. Thank you all for visiting with us tonight

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:38:50 Eastern US
Mona (Madeline,4,dx'd@13months) from 24.144.55.101
We had this problem when we started going to church a couple of years ago. They served crackers and Tang during Sunday School. I just upped her insulin on Sunday mornings.

Mon Dec 17 2001 22:42:32 Eastern US
Dr. Benchell (Child Psychologist, CDE) from 206.250.227.168
I'm signing off now, Steph. Thanks for hosting. Warmest wishes, Jill



                 
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